self development

You love each other but can’t manage to communicate without arguing, fighting and ending up exhausted, each one in his corner, trying to lick his wounds and thinking of how to protect one self against a new attack. And in spite of that…you love each other? How is this possible? Why do people hurt most those they love? How come we can’t express our love? How come we are full of good intentions but when it comes to reality we find ourselves again shouting and blaming the other one. And then that monster of guilt jumps out of nowhere to our throat to strangle us once again. How to stop this infernal behavior? First let me explain why this happens. We all need energy. We need energy to live and to survive. Energy comes in many forms : love, attention, interest, food, friendship, money, approval, recognition… We all need this to feel good, to build our personality and to find our place in society. But here it is : as long as we think this energy has to come from other human bein

Do you know that you are emitting signals that the universe responds to? It's like we're all emitting radio signals that go out into the universe and match us up with anything on the same wavelength, bringing to us the circumstances and events which make up our lives. The signals you emit are made up of your thoughts, beliefs, and the emotions that these create within you. You're experiences tend to match what you've got your focus upon. You do have the power to affect your experiences by paying attention to what you focus upon. This is where your power is. If you are focused upon the negative aspects of your experience, you will create more of the same, which you then focus on and create more of, and so on in a vicious cycle. Fortunately, this works the other way around too! If you choose to focus on the positive aspects of any experience, you will create more positive aspects you can then focus on, and continue bringing more positive experiences into your

Generally you pick up on the things that resonate with your beliefs and your view of the world. This is why, when you’re feeling bad, bad things rain down on you relentlessly. There are the real, major issues that you have to contend with and then there are the generalizations that you have learned to draw from them, like: “Life is hard” “It always seems to happen to me” etc. It isn’t in any way your fault, of course. It’s also true that bad things happen to happy people too. Happy people are not necessarily fortunate people in the sense of everything in their life being hunky-dory. How many people do you know who have good relationships, good health, financial security and are still discontented, bored or only half-alive? I can certainly think of a few. Happy people are the people who have learned to modify their mood, manage their emotions and choose their reactions. Language, which we all have, is the sole tool that they need to do so. You end up believing what other peo

It might take a little coffee when it comes to relaxing after a hard day's work. Well, yeah I'm guilty about that one as well, unless I'm caught dead wearing a lampshade over my head after a few rounds of vodka… half-naked! Okay, bad example and I apologize to everyone reading this after getting nightmares about me in that state of drunken stupor. Just don't ask how it happened, please. But what's really interesting is that how do people go through the usual part of life when faced with vein-popping stress? I mean, the new age thing like Zen or yoga is one of the good things and it actually works. Is there room for the intellectual side of people who can actually smell the roses-in-a-can while on the move? It kind of had me thinking that there really must be something in this 'mind-over-matter' thing. Humor is indeed the best medicine there is whenever you are. I mean anyone can pay good money to listen to a comedian just to make you wet your pants aft

When you hear the word “coach”, what comes first into your mind? Do you picture a basketball team with a man/woman shouting out directions? Or perhaps a football team with a man/woman pacing to and fro and calling out the names of the players? Coaching is no longer reserved to sports teams; it is now one of the key concepts in leadership and management. Why is coaching popular? Coaching levels the playing field. Coaching is one of the six emotional leadership styles proposed by Daniel Goleman. Moreover, it is a behavior or role that leaders enforce in the context of situational leadership. As a leadership style, coaching is used when the members of a group or team are competent and motivated, but do not have an idea of the long-term goals of an organization. This involves two levels of coaching: team and individual. Team coaching makes members work together. In a group of individuals, not everyone may have nor share the same level of competence and commitment to a goal. A group m

 preparation to self-improvement Be all you can be, but it's not always in the Army. I often see myself as somewhat contented with my life the way things are, but of course it's hard to think of anything else when where are real issues to be discussed. Still I aspire for something deeper and more meaningful. So we're all pelted with problems. Honestly it shouldn't even bother or even hinder us to becoming all we ought to be. Aspirations as kids should continue to live within us, even though it would be short-lived or as long as we could hold on to the dream. They say you can't teach an old dog new tricks… or can they? 1. What do I really want? The question of the ages. So many things you want to do with your life and so little time to even go about during the day. Find something that you are good at can help realize that small step towards improvement. Diligence is the key to know that it is worth it. 2. Should I really change? Today's generation h

It might take a little coffee when it comes to relaxing after a hard day's work. Well, yeah I'm guilty about that one as well, unless I'm caught dead wearing a lampshade over my head after a few rounds of vodka… half-naked! Okay, bad example and I apologize to everyone reading this after getting nightmares about me in that state of drunken stupor. Just don't ask how it happened, please. But what's really interesting is that how do people go through the usual part of life when faced with vein-popping stress? I mean, the new age thing like Zen or yoga is one of the good things and it actually works. Is there room for the intellectual side of people who can actually smell the roses-in-a-can while on the move? It kind of had me thinking that there really must be something in this 'mind-over-matter' thing. Humor is indeed the best medicine there is whenever you are. I mean anyone can pay good money to listen to a comedian just to make you wet your pants af

The Blarney Stone is a historical stone, or actually part of the Blarney Castle in Ireland where it was believed that kissing the stone can grant you the gift of gab. Yeah, it seems strange in this day and age, but who are we to question tradition? It's not like I'm saying that Santa Claus doesn't exist (OOPS!). There is so much to know about conversation that anyone, even I, could ever realize. You can go though watching talk shows; radio programs; clubs dedicated to public speaking; ordinary conversations; certain rules still apply when it comes to interaction through words. It may sound tedious, I know, but even though it's your mouth that's doing the work, your brain works twice as hard to churn out a lot of things you know. So what better way to start learning to be an effective communication is to know the very person closest to you: yourself. 1. What you know. Education is all about learning the basics, but to be an effective speaker is to practice what

So how do you stay calm, composed and maintain self esteem in a tough environment? Here are some tips you may to consider as a starter guide to self improvement. Imagine yourself as a Dart Board. Everything and everyone else around you may become Dart Pins, at one point or another. These dart pins will destroy your self esteem and pull you down in ways you won’t even remember. Don’t let them destroy you, or get the best of you.  So which dart pins should you avoid? Dart Pin #1 : Negative Work Environment Beware of “dog eat dog” theory where everyone else is fighting just to get ahead. This is where non-appreciative people usually thrive. No one will appreciate your contributions even if you miss lunch and dinner, and stay up late. Most of the time you get to work too much without getting help from people concerned.  Stay out of this, it will ruin your self esteem. Competition is at stake anywhere. Be healthy enough to compete, but in a healthy competition that is. Dart Pin #2: O

Almost everyone have heard the hit single 'Don't Worry, Be Happy' by Bobby McFerrin. The song has a very catchy way of conveying its message of being happy to everyone. Bobby Mcferiin's simple message surely made a lot of people by telling them not to worry. Living a happy, resilient and optimistic life is wonderful, and is also good for your health. Being happy actually protects you from the stresses of life. Stress is linked to top causes of death such as heart disease, cancer and stroke. One of the better things ever said is - 'The only thing in life that will always remain the same is change', and in our life we have the power to make the necessary changes if we want to. Even if we find ourselves in an unbearable situation we can always find solace in the knowledge that it too would change. Social networks or relationships are essential to happiness. People are different, accept people for who or what they are, avoid clashes, constant arguments, and le

Have you had that experience when all of a sudden you just had this huge hunch that something is about to happen, and to your surprise, that intuition was eventually translated to reality? When you feel strongly about something without logical basis to it, that's called intuition. It comes in three impressions: clairvoyance or "the third eye", sensing clearly and feeling through listening. Clairvoyance is when your eye goes beyond what it can see. This is when you know what is happening somewhere. Sensing clearly is basically what we refer to as "hunch" or "gut feel." This is the time when you are overwhelmed with a feeling and you can't explain it and all you can say is "I just know." On the other hand, feeling through listening or clairaudience is being able to "listen" between the lines. Intuition also happens at times when a certain sound, whatever it is - be it a car's honk or a bird's twitting - ushers in a

all of those who have a web page or blog want to increase their traffic in minutes right! so that you can make money in night.well.all good results wants hard working.you work hard you get the fruit follow these steps to increase your traffic 1:choose a hot topic whats the topic people are mad after it can be wiki leaks or how to earn money online.search for the topic people are searching most try to take help from goggles AdWords keyword 2:add your on content cutting and coping in your blog won't work be creative and provide new information.try to show your interest in your articles 3:after posting when u have done your posting then give your links through social networks.try to attract people with your amazing words grasping their attention. 4:friend requests give a number of friend requests .write on the face book walls of groups where u can publicize your link and many people see them 5:use email marketing techniques send a lot of emails advertising your own blog 6

'' a man is what he thinks '' is a very popular quote.NOW every man thinks that he thinks the best for himself.with out noticing that  all its nightmares are in his minds not outside him a wise man said if you want to change the world change your self..when inside changes outside automatically changes. now here is the point stop crying on your life and start realizing your weaknesses and make them your power by accepting them changing them and converting them into positive habits   visualization your dream when ever you Wake up visualize your dream before sleep visualize your dream coming true and you will start noticing how your subconscious starts to lead you towards your success visualization works as a magic and let your dream come reality.always visualize positive.

the basic step towards success is the self confidence .if you  r lacking from it you are having a great trouble.you are loosing what you really deserve.the few steps that i m going to tell you will increase your living potential 1 . dress smartly     this oes not  means you spend a lot of money on your clothing.but it means choose the best cloths that reflects your personality be care full about your wearing stay in style but not be over stylish 2:walk with an aim  people with confidence do everything purposeful.they have important works to do .they have to meet people.visits new locations.so when you know what you have to do you move straight towards your goal this increase your walking speed and you look and feel more important 3; good posture    people with confidence have a good posture .they sit straight.their head is high their voice is firm which overall effects a positive and healthy output by practicing good posture you will automatically feel confident 4: surround

              a moderate stress is a good thing but when it becomes your habbit.it will led you towards crisses.stress will not led you toward sucess but roll down you from the line here are some tips to act upon               1  focus on your Breathing - Breathe slowly and deeply             2  Visualize yourself as Calm and Composed             3 Make Time for a Mini Self-Massage             4 Listen to Music             5 Smile and Say Cheese often             6 Say out loudly your Prayers           7 Reaffirm positive affirmations            8 Start writing down your thoughts on Paper 9 Count to numbers in reverse order... 100 to 1 10 Watch comedy program on TV 11 Just Say No to what you don’t like 12 Warm up yourself by stretching 13 Try out self - Acupressure by stimulating various points 14 Schedule a future Worry Time where you will sit and worry 15 Shake It Up 16 Munch Some Snacks and ice creams 17 Go for a walk or a drive 18 Share it with near

'' You must beleive in yourself, my son, or no one else will beleive in you. Be self confident, self-reliant, and even if you don't make it, you will know you have done your best''. (Mary H. MacArthur) TO BE A SUCCESSFUL HUMAN FOLLOWING ARE THE SIMPLE STEPS TO FOLLOW. How do you believe IN You It’s not enough to just say “Oh, just believe and it will happen.” What I mean by that is we never really formed our own beliefs. majority of your beliefs came from outside of you, It’s time to take charge of our own beliefs. Step 1: You HAVE TO  state a specific belief FIRST in order to believe it.  Step 2: HAMMER that belief into yourself CONTINUOUSLY. Beliefs are NOT formed overnight. 1 . Write your belief down everyday. 2 . Put it everywhere you see. 3 . Visualize your belief already achieved everyday. Reality lives alone in the brain.so you have to change negative thoughts into positive in your mind so that it will become positive reality Step 3: Continu

we all know that health is wealth.we can not achieve self development without good health so here is a delicious and healthy soup for the internal protection of body this soup provides all essential vitamins and minerals needed for body ingredients 1: 1/4piece of all seasonal vegetables 2: 1 small piece of meat 3 :black pepper 1/4 tsp 4 :cornflour 2tbs 5 water 2 glass 6: 1egg 7: salt to taste procedure 1 :chop all vegetables in a food processor 2: take a pan add chopped vegetables and 2 glass of water in it 3: add piece of meat,salt and black pepper 4: let it boil.when it starts boiling lower the heat 5 :when 1 glass of water is left than take a small bowl add 2tbs of cornflour with 3 tbs of water mix it well and add it to the soup and stirr it constantly with a spoon 6: now break one egg in a bowl stir it and pour it into the soup stirr the soup constantly 7 :after 2 min turn off the stove and pour the soup in a bowl 8: hot and nuterious delious soup is ready 9 :opti

this book is written by jenny moon a wonder full book on behaviour. how we react on different situation.and how to train oneself to become assertive with real life examples,this book is for those who are aggressive,passive,or for those who want to be more assertive.this book describes the rights and responsibilities of a person .how to take your rights.and how to give rights for others.without being aggressive ,passive and manipulative it also tells us the importance of journal writing and to continue journal writing to improve your assertiveness behaviour it also tell some great techniques to enhance self confidence and self esteem

No more stress can come near your if you follow these simple steps these are also called stress busters 1 :wake up early . when you wake up say with a loud voice hello everybody 2 : pray : prayer is a human need it cuts the person with this world and link it to his creator so all stress burst out.thank Allah for every thing he has given to you.it can be your parents,house,warm and soft bed,water. 3: thank full to people :.when we establish a habit of thanking others for their help it develops a positive impact on us we feel happy. when we are thank full 4 :help your mother with breakfast at kitchen if you are helpful to others you will feel great.and you will loose your attention on stress thoughts. 5: while eating only think how much tasty the next bite will be. do not let negative thoughts to come into your mind.also remind your self  that there are peoples in this world who are suffering from hungriness,but they have nothing to eat.they are thirsty but have no water to drink wh

when things go wrong as they sometimes will when the road you trudging seems all up hill when funds are low and the debts are high and you want to smile but you have to sigh when care is pressing you down a bit rest if you must..... but don't quite life is queer with it's twists and turns as everyone of us something learns and many a failure turns about when he might have won had he struck it out don't give up though the pace seems slow you may succeed with another below success is failure turned inside out the silver tint of the clouds of doubts and you never can tell how close you are so stick to the fight when you are hardest hit it's when things seem worst that you must not quit

according to mind sciences our emotions are connected by our body.a happy person express his happiness through his smile.a nervous person shows his nervousness through his body gestures like head down shoulders inwards all his gestures shows he is not feeling good.if a person is going to do something wrong.his eyes widely open noting every one here is a very famous saying actions speak louder than words if you are feeling bad you can become happy through mind sciences. when you are sad you will notice that you are seeing in downward direction many times and your head is down. your shoulders are bent inwards than do following steps. 1:sit erect with your shoulders upwards and straight 2:keep your head high so that you can clearly see what is happening around you 3:now make a big smile on your face mind sciences says in this condition negative thoughts can not click in your mind.even if you try it. when we think negative our face expression also changes try it make  your head poi